Disciplining your child

10 Things to Do to Stop Yelling at Your Kids

Some time ago I was chatting with a friend on how difficult it is getting to handle my daughter and her tantrums, and my friend said she swears by an article which has helped her immensely with her 2.5 year old. She emailed me the article right away and I have been following it ever since with excellent results, most of the times.

Here is the full article. It is from ‘Dr. Laura Blog’ and has been taken from here.

“Constantly screaming and yelling at your kids is abusive, useless and stupid (if it was useful, you wouldn’t have to do it more than once). Most parents scream because they are frustrated; their buttons have been pushed and they feel like they don’t have any other options. However, the minute you lose it, you lose all the power.

You would think that screaming would make your kids fear you. It doesn’t. As a matter of fact, it does just the opposite. Kids lose respect for you when you start screaming and yelling because you’ve lost control. They know that the yelling will pass, or they become so frustrated and angry that after a while, they become immune to it and don’t take you seriously.

Now, just as all kids misbehave, disobey, talk back, ignore chores and fight with siblings, all parents are going to holler every now and then. However, you need to pay close attention to how you’re yelling. Blaming and shaming – “You’re a loser,” “You’re useless,” “You’re the reason I’m upset” – are very destructive, especially if the child is being told that he or she is responsible for the parent’s problem. According to The American Journal of Psychiatry, emotional abuse is the most significant predictor of mental health, even more than sexual or physical abuse.

Here are 10 things you can do to stop yelling at your kids:

  1. Set clear boundaries. Kids are not psychic – you have to make the rules clear. If the rules aren’t clear, kids have trouble following them. You may assume that your child heard and remembers something you said to them in passing, but they may not. So, you need to be really clear. Instead of saying, “Don’t come in the house with wet shoes,” say, “When you come in the house, I want you to take your shoes off and leave them by the front door – whether they are wet or not. That way, we won’t bring the trash and germs from outside into the house.” Now that’s clear. Or, if you want your child to pick up their room, physically go in there and show them what you mean (when I was a kid, throwing everything into my closet and closing the door was my idea of cleaning my room).
  2. Set simple consequences. Many parents threaten consequences and then don’t follow through on them. However, empty threats don’t work.
  3. Speak to your child on his or her level. Bend down so that you’re eye-to-eye. Getting face-to-face makes it easier for them to hear you, listen to you and pay attention.
  4. Be sure your child understands what you are asking. After you’ve instructed your child to do something, have them repeat it back to you. That way, you’ll know if they’ve actually heard it.
  5. Respond every time a rule is broken. Be consistent. Each and every time a rule is broken, calmly impose the consequence.
  6. Remind your child of the rule only ONE time. Your child gets one reminder. After that, they get a consequence.
  7. Immediately deliver the consequence.
  8. Ask someone to remind you when you’re yelling. Pick someone who knows you well (a spouse, parent, friend, etc.) and ask them to give you a signal when they see you yelling.
  9. Respond kindly when your child yells at you. Instead of shouting back when your child is screaming at you, just calmly say, “I know you’re mad at me right now, but please talk to me like I’m someone you love.” That stops everyone in their tracks.
  10. Take a “parent” time-out. Sometimes even parents need a time-out. It doesn’t mean you have to go sit in the corner, it just means that you need to take a break. Take a shower. Have a cup of tea or a glass of wine. Revisit the situation later when you’re not feeling so angry. In fact, walking out of the room inspires fear far more than yelling does.”

 Happy Parenting

xoxo

-A

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Educating your child

Caterpillar to Butterfly: Songs and Videos

Off late I have been struggling to find new things to teach VMJ. She knows her shapes and colours, numbers and alphabets, animals and insects, fruits and vegetables and an array of other things. ‘What else could you teach a 2 year old without stressing her?’ was the question I asked myself almost every day until I stumbled across pictures of a caterpillar turning into a pupa while looking for pictures of  caterpillar to show VMJ. I thought she knows a caterpillar and a butterfly but does not yet know the connection between the two and hunted for a song or poem that explains it in a simple yet fun way, and I found a few very nice short poems that my LO has started to love. 

Here they go:

  1. Caterpillar, caterpillar eat and grow.
    Caterpillar, caterpillar close your eyes.
    Caterpillar, caterpillar change your size.
    Caterpillar, caterpillar where’d you go.
  1. One caterpillar ,two caterpillars, three caterpillars today. 
    Four caterpillars, five caterpillars eating all the day. 
    One cocoon, two cocoons, three cocoons today. 
    Four cocoons, five cocoons sleeping all the day. 
    One butterfly, two butterflies, three butterflies today. 
    Four butterflies, five butterflies, flying, flying away.
  1. Caterpillar, caterpillar, cat cat cat
    Making the pupa fat fat fat
    It waited and waited and sat sat sat
    Out came the butterfly just like that.
  1. First comes a butterfly and lays an egg,
    Out comes a caterpillar with many legs,
    Oh see the caterpillar spin and spin,
    A little chrysalis to sleep in.

Oh, oh ,oh wait and see 
Oh oh oh wait and see
Out of the chrysalis,my oh my
Out comes a pretty butterfly.
 

 I just love the way the rhymes teach an otherwise complex phenomenon of metamorphosis so easily. These are short and simple and the kids have no problem understanding them. It does seem like a complicated phenomenon to teach to a 2 year old, but the rhymes, videos and the pictures below make it so easy. 

Below is a picture of the caterpillar turning into a pupa.

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 … and then one of a pupa converting into a butterfly.

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Both pictures have been taken from the internet. Source: 1, 2

You can read the story ‘the Very Hungry Caterpillar’ by Eric Carle to supplement the rhymes and pictures. If you do not have the book, you can show the video here

Here is a wonderful time lapse video of the caterpillar to butterfly metamorphosis that you can show to your kids. Though I have tried to find the shortest yet most comprehensive video its 4 minutes may still be too long for your child. The subtitles will help you talk about the video while they watch to engage them.

I hope you and your child have as much fun with this rhyme as we have.

xoxo

-A

Child Sexual Abuse

Child Sexual Abuse: Useful videos

The counselor at the CSA workshop had shared few videos that parents should show to their kids to help them understand more about Child Sexual Abuse. Here are couple of such videos:

Many times parents are concerned but do not know how to teach their children about the good touch and bad touch. Here’s a brilliant video for that too. You can show the video and even use the script to talk to them when the video is not available

Please remember few things:

  • It is never too early to start teaching your child about good touch and bad touch
  • Do not make teaching about CSA a onetime activity. You must keep talking to your child over and over again. Every day during bath time teach about private body parts and how they own their body. Kids forget quickly but as parents it’s our responsibility to remember to remind them of this very important lesson.

Stay safe everyone!

-A

Child Sexual Abuse

Addressing Child Sexual Abuse

Couple of months ago I attended a workshop on Child Sexual Abuse at VMJ’s play school. I found it very helpful and informative. Sharing it here so more and more people can benefit and save their children from getting harmed.

It was an interactive session and the counselor went about in a question answer way which actually helped us understand her point better. Therefore, my suggestion is to not just read the text but to actually take a minute to think about the answer to the questions and then continue reading to get the most out of it.

Here we go –

Activity 1: 

A) What is sex and what is sexuality? (Yes, we all think we know the answer, but please try putting it in words)

B) What do you understand by child sexual curiosity? 

C) Identify signs of sexual curiosity in children aged 2-4 years.

Answers:

The private parts in our body pertain to sex. Remember all forms that we fill in for various reasons have a column ‘sex’. Understanding of one’s own private parts and the differences between girls and boys is termed sexuality. Its also the attraction and curiosity towards the other sex.

Its important to teach your child about his/her body completely like we teach them other things. 

All kids engage in some sort of sexual play which is absolutely normal and stems from their natural curiosity. Games like Doctor-doctor, playing family etc have been played since generations and allow them to touch each other and know how someone else’s touch feels in the safe disguise of a game. Its normal if its spontaneous, unplanned and voluntary, if its happening between kids who are close in age, if the kids who are playing such games are easily and happily distracted and diverted in other games and activities. 

However, if the child has been planning to play these games, or plays with kids much older or younger than him or doesn’t want to play other games then a parent might need to observe the child for more clues.

Activity 2:

A) What do you understand by child sexual abuse?

B) What behaviours/actions/ conversation by the adult with kids of age 2-4 years will be termed as child sexual abuse?

Answers:

Most people think that child sexual abuse can only happen when a child is touched, but in fact any action, words, or gesture that make the child feel uncomfortable about his private parts constitute child sexual abuse. Actions such as touching, looking, talking, showing inappropriate content, or making the child touch himself or another person etc are all CSA.

The first reaction of parents after knowing that their child was being sexually abused is “Why didn’t he/she tell me?”

Its unfair to expect a child to come and tell us when something inappropriate happens around or with them. Most of us have been in uncomfortable situations at some or the other point in time and most times we don’t share it with our families because we feel uncomfortable. When despite being adults we find it difficult to talk about such incidents, how can a child talk about it. Moreover, most parents don’t know how to teach kids about bad touch and so the kids don’t even have words to explain such activities. As a parent its our responsibility to teach them about their body, their sexuality and educate them about bad touch; and to give them words to express themselves in any situation.

Activity 3:

List tricks that you think an abuser, whether stranger or a trusted person uses to allure kids aged 2-4 years for possible sexual abuse.

 Answer:

–  Luring with sweets and toys

– Gaining their affection and confidence by playing and spending lot of time with them

– Letting them do things that parents control, such as watching TV, playing games on phone, eating ice cream in winters

– Play secret keeping games

– Isolating them from parents on pretext of playing or going out or letting the parents go out while they baby sit

– Giving in to all demands of the kids whether they are right or wrong

– Being more interested in spending time with the child alone than with the parents or all of them together

Activity 4: 

List behavioral and physical signs which you think a sexually abused child will display.

Answer:

Behavioral signs:

– The child becomes quiet and withdrawn

– Frequent mood swings

– Avoiding or disliking a particular place or person

– The child stops playing with his friends

– Avoiding physical contact, like hugging and kissing, with parents

– Reluctance to undress (kids usually are very flamboyant and don’t like wearing clothes. If your child suddenly doesn’t like to take off his clothes even at bath time your radar should turn on)

– Disturbed sleep/ nightmares

– Sudden anger and aggression

– Loss of appetite

– Drastic changes in school performance

– Drawing with bizarre things (eg. a child usually makes a man stick figure by making a circle for head and sticks for the torso, hands and legs. If a child starts drawing the stick figure including the private parts it means he is getting inappropriate exposure and we need to find out more about it)

– The child starts using new names for his private parts

– The child regresses to outgrown behaviour like bed wetting, thumb sucking etc.

 

Physical signs:

* Pain and discomfort in private areas

Activity 5: Identify appropriate and inappropriate sexual behaviors in the following case studies:

Case Study 1: Harish and Sapna are 3 year old kids in your playschool. they like each other a lot and want to spend all their time in the preschool together. They hold hands, hug and have even been seen kiss each other on the cheeks and lips.

Case Study 2: Ranjan is a 4 year old boy in your class. he is confident, interactive and loves to play outdoors. However, when in the playground, you have seen him hide behind swings and trees with other boys of his class, take off his shorts and fondle his own as well as other child’s genitals. the boys appear to giggle when doing this but Ranjan sometimes forces the other boys into this ‘game’.

Case study 3: Lata is a 3 and a half year old girl in your class. She stays to herself and is rather quiet as compared to other kids. However, she shows great affection to the male attendant of the class. She likes to be only with him and has been repeatedly seen to touch his crotch and ‘suck’ on pencils and pens in an inappropriate way frequently.

Answers:- 

Case study 1: This is a normal case of 2 kids of same age liking and playing with each other

Case study 2: This case needs further exploration as there’s only one thing that seems out of place (of him sometimes forcing the other boys). everything else looks good

Case study 3: This definitely is a case of the girl being sexually abused

 

In addition to the activities, here are some other key takeaways:

–          Abuser is usually someone close to the child. Must watch this video

–          Most times the child and the family trust the abuser enough to leave the child alone with him/her

–          The child doesn’t know he’s being abused

–          The child fears he’ll lose love and trust of the abuser if he tells his parents about the abuse

–          The child doesn’t know how to express the abuse in words

–          Sometimes the child is abused so frequently that he starts taking it as a normal activity

–          When the child does tell about the abuse, most times parents brush it off, refuse to trust the child or blame the child for over imagining things

–          The child will not talk about abuse until you speak to the child about it

The CSA cycle:

The abuser identifies the target ——> Trust building ——> Isloating the target ——-> Sexualizing relationship ———> Maintaining control (secrecy & threat)

How we can protect our children from CSA:

–          Teach children well about their bodies. Like you teach them names for various body parts, make sure you teach them the correct names for their private parts too. It becomes easier to tell something when you have the right name for it.

–          Give them ownership of their body – ‘my body is mine’.

–          Introduce the idea of ‘privacy’ as early as you can.. such as you need privacy when you go to the bathroom, when you change clothes etc.

–          Tell them about good secrets and bad secrets. The secrets that they share with mummy and papa and their friends are good secrets, while the secrets any other elder asks them to keep are bad secrets.

–          Don’t force affection on kids, its okay to say no. There are times when our child doesn’t want to hug or kiss a relative or family friend and we insist they do. When we force our children they learn that whether they like it or not they should do things that make the elders happy, and this makes it easy for the abuser to have his/her way.

–          Practice No-Go-Tell….. when there anything that makes the child uncomfortable, the child should shout NO as loud as possible, then run away from that place and tell his parent. Appoint one or at the maximum both parents with whom the child can share anything and everything. Don’t just say’ You can share with anyone, we are all there for you’.

 

There were a few cases shared during the course of the workshop. 

Case 1

The counselor shared that a boy had come to her who was badly abused because of negligence. Her mother had re-married and the step father used to stay home when the boy came back from school. The step father used to watch porn most times during the day and did not care for the boy’s presence. This resulted in the boy watching the porn with him and witnessing his step father masturbate at times. This affected the boy a great deal and his behaviour and grades at school suffered to an extent that the teachers suggested the mother to get a psychological evaluation done. In this case the child was not touched or spoken to. The child was not made to do anything yet it is a major case of sexual abuse.

Case 2

In another case, a mother shared that some time back her 4 year old son shared that one sweeper took a pic of his private parts when he was peeing in the school bathroom. He mentioned it casually when she was asking him if he is able to manage with the zipper of his school shorts. Needless to say she was horrified and got hyper. Her reaction scared her son and he refused to say anything else on the matter. She then calmed herself down and gently tried to probe more. The son shared that it happened only once and told her the day it happened. She then took the complaint to the Principal who wanted her son to identify the culprit from the entire staff. She refused to get her son involved ( a move very much appreciated by the counselor) and got the sweeper fired following the daily roaster.

When anything happens to our child, the best thing to do is to not show that its a big deal, because that scares children. The right approach is to get as much information as possible by sounding casual and showing lot of confidence in our kids. Never ever tell the child that he might have misunderstood or imagined these things… a child will never lie about being sexually abused. Support the child and protect him from further damage.

Hope all kids stay safe!

xoxo

– A

Potty training

Potty Training – The easy going way (1)

My husband is a sort of hygiene freak. When our DD turned 1, I told my hubby its time to start toilet training her, especially because summers were just beginning and by the onset of winters she would be completely trained (well, one can at least hope!). My cleanliness freak literally freaked out…

“You mean, there will be pee and poop on the floor and bed?!”

I said “Yes, some accidents are bound to happen.”

“Isn’t there a better way to toilet train kids?”

“I think not”

“How can this be possible? What do people in western countries do where the houses are all fully carpeted?”

“Umm… I think they wait until the child is old enough to understand and follow instructions.”

“Ok… lets do the same with our daughter. Moreover, what’s the point of stressing her unnecessarily”

And so we postponed training her and she stayed happy and snug in her diapers.

Few months later people started asking us… “Is she still wearing diapers?” “She is not trained yet?” which, though made us uneasy, failed to result in any action because monsoon had already started and everyone knows monsoon and winters are bad bad times to start with the training. We held back all thoughts on the topic again and waited impatiently for winters to get over. 

Soon after VMJ turned 2 we, very enthusiastically, started with her training. Taking her to the toilet every hour and telling her she’ll get a chocolate if she pees or poops in the toilet. We failed miserably. She wouldn’t even sit on the seat. I let her see me pee so she knows its ok but it didn’t help. Then a friend suggested that we shouldn’t rush her and let her pee on the bathroom floor to start the process and then gradually move her to the seat. We tried that too but again… no luck. She would not pee when we made her stand in the bathroom and waited there with her but peed all over the moment we came out. She knew all theory… kept saying “Pehle se batana potty aayi to (when you want to poop, tell beforehand)” “Susu bathroom mein karte hain (we pee in the loo)” but sucked at practical. We gave up after trying for few days, thinking we’ll start again after a while.

Then yesterday I was chatting with a neighbor whose younger daughter is a couple of months younger to VMJ and she said “You need to keep her off diapers at home at least… in 1-2 months she’ll get the hang of it”, and I went “What?! 1-2 months?” 

When hubby got home I told him the same thing and he geared up once again. We took off the diapers and made her sit on the seat. Hubby sat with her on the bathroom stool and kept talking. After a long time she peed in the pot! Ahhh…. the sweet sound of success… 😉

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We had to step out to the local market area for a while so the diaper was back. Soon after we returned I saw her making her potty face and rushed her to the bathroom. It was a little too late but I still made her sit on the seat where she finished her business which started in the diaper. 2 successes back to back gave us some confidence but our joy was short lived. She peed in the bedroom, barely few steps away from the bathroom the next time nature called… 😦

Lessons learnt:

  • You can’t let few successes or even many to let you lose grip on the situation. A child is a child after all… the parent needs to be in control and lead the training all the time. 
  • You will have to be very very patient. Experienced parents know it takes 1-2 months for a child to just get the hang of peeing in the loo… first time parents need to remind themselves over and over again to give the little ones more time.
  • It should be instantly gratifying for the child to pee or poop in the pot. Give them the incentive you promised, if you did, immediately after the business is done, else it loses its significance.
  • Don’t let meal times, play times, milk times or TV times distract your schedule… any deviation will only result in accidents as children get too caught up in these activities to realize the need to pee/poop.
  • Identifying the exact moment to take your toddler to the loo is easy when the child is active as I have noticed VMJ would just pause for a moment right before she lets go. (last night she was playing with us and suddenly just paused, we rushed her to the loo and had a success. Similarly when we were setting the table for dinner, she paused for a moment and taking the cue we rushed to the bathroom and had another success).
  • Get a potty ring, preferably a cushioned one with handles so the child can sit comfortably and hold the handles if he is too scared of sitting on the pot. The independent potty seat is too heavy and needs to be cleaned every time the child does his business. And if you do succeed in training your child on the independent seat it could be another task to make him sit on the actual pot. The ring looks like this and is available easily at all stores selling kids equipment. We bought ours for around 400/- lu0496_1

I will add more to this as I learn myself… until then…. Happy training everyone! Good luck!

xoxo

-A

Potty training

Potty Training: Day 2

Results first: It was a failure. LO did not want to sit on the potty at all. For some reason, playing was more important. the efforts continued till afternoon, and then had to be given up. Stickers, candies, colors…nothing worked to attract the lo to the loo. Takeaways from today: If lo is not in a mood, its better to try some other day.

We finally gave up, had lunch, and after the nap, went out for shopping. It was fun to be outside and made us both happy.

Day 3, begins tomorrow!

~NM

Potty training

Potty Training: Day 1

Day 1 of toilet training ended on an encouraging note (LO pooped in the pot-finally in the evening right before bed-time, just before being confined to diaper again), though the whole day was full of ups and downs. Thought of quitting happened pretty much every hour but the perseverence stayed put. At the end of the day, success rate was at about 40%.

The day started right after breakfast. The diaper was trashed and came along pull-up pants. Trips to the bathroom were made every half hour. Drinking juice threw the timing off, and the trips were adjusted to every 20mins. By mid-day we had 50% success. Though sounds like a big number on first day, but it was more of a training for me to know when the next nature call is coming ;), than it was for the lo.

The training continued after nap-time, with the duration of sitting on potty being 20mins at times. With each failure, confidence dropped. However, following were the takeaways from the day:

  • There should not be any distractions in the potty room (like toys or books etc) At this age he pees when told to, but cannot yet tell just before needing to use the toilet
  • Flushing toilet right after a success was a lot of fun and enough incentive
  • With increase in fluid intake, trips to the loo should be more frequent (sometimes as soon as 15mins)
  • I slacked at keeping a chart. It should be done, more so for our own sake so we know the pattern
  • And the most important, it is a mother’s training to know when the lo needs to be rushed to the loo and not the other way round… Phew!

Day 2 continues tomorrow… Will it be a success on Day 3? Seems like a far-fetched dream right now. Only time will tell!

~NB

Potty training

Gearing up for potty training

Potty training: One of the most dreaded tasks for a mom. I have heard poles apart experiences from mommies. For some it is  a cake-walk and for some, it’s a never-ending battle. Some mommies feel that it should be started as early as possible, while some say the kid will do it on his/her own when he/she is ready (around 3-4 years). I am planning to take up this daunting task over this long weekend. My LO (~2 year old) knows he need to go pee-pee/poo-poo on the pot. [I have been a little lucky that my parents have been here since past 3 months and are making him sit on the pot pretty much every morning and he has done it on the potty 4-5 times. Very  low success rate but it’s a start] So now I am planning to go all in and removing his diapers and making him throw in the trash. I will graduate him to big boy pull up pants (under wear) and just wait and watch…

Day 0, my gear for tomorrow:

  •        -Pull up pants (lots of them, phew!)  [Check]
  •      –  Resolve carpet cleaner (skip them if you don’t have carpet) [Need to pick up from Walmart tonight]
  •        -Confidence [Not sure]
  •        -Persistence [Check]
  •        -Treats [Not in favor]
  •        -Toys and books [Check]

Currently, I am attempting only day training and not night. That will need to happen at a later day as my LO drinks milk right before sleeping. I plan to wean him off in a few months and then will do night-time too. But first things first. Watch out for Day 1, 2 and 3… 🙂

-NM

Bedtime

Putting your little ones to bed

Every mother has 3 concern areas for her child that stay constant throughout her life…. her child’s sleep, food and education/learning.

I remember growing up I never wanted to sleep. I felt I might miss something if I did. On hot summer afternoons when there was nothing to do – no cable TV, no electronic gadgets, no fancy books or toys, my mom would get me and my brother in the bed, lay down herself between us with our heads on each of her arms and tell stories hoping we’ll sleep and she would get 40 winks of her own. But my brother and I were never in a mood to sleep and while she told stories we planned on how to get away. At the end of each session my mom would either accept defeat and stop trying to put us to bed or was sleeping herself until I went crying to her for one or another thing.

Now that I have a child myself I realize how much a mother craves for her little one to take that afternoon nap. There’s a long list of things we mothers intend on accomplishing during the 1-2 hours we get to ourselves… laundry, tidying up the house, catching up with friends and family via phone or internet, getting a daily dose of facebook or TV, getting dinner ready or enjoying a hot cup of afternoon tea in peace.

My daughter is the same as me… she fights sleep for as long as she can, trying to find just about anything that wards off sleep. I know if I get her to close her eyes even for 30 seconds she would sleep for a couple of hours but how to get her to do that was an everyday challenge for me until recently when my sister in law (SIL) shared a magic trick with me.

My LO was not even 2 when we took a road trip with my SIL. The trip had upset her routine and it was getting even more difficult for me to get her to take her nap than ever before. My SIL pitched in and she asked my LO if she likes fairies. Now, I hadn’t introduced the concept of fairies to my daughter until then so I was surprised when she replied in affirmative. My SIL then went on asking my LO if she wanted to see the fairies and got an eager nod. She then asked my daughter to close her eyes, saying fairies only come when we close our eyes and my daughter obliged. Then then sang a song calling fairies and the brat slept within moments. Since that day I have been using this trick to put her to bed in the afternoon and night. I ask her which fairy she wants to call each time and then we sing a song which goes like this…

Blue blue fairy, where are you

Blue blue fairy, how do you do

Blue blue fairy, Vaanu’s calling you. (Vaanu is my LO’s nickname)

Blue blue fairy fly quick quick

Blue blue fairy hurry up please

Blue blue fairy, vaanu wants to sleep

We change the name of the fairy depending on my LO’s mood that day and sing it over and over again till she falls asleep. Only condition is that she has to keep her eyes closed if she wants the fairy to come visit her 🙂 Its so much fun, so far she has asked me to call Circle fairy, Hot fairy, Flower fairy, New fairy and what not…

Must try with your little ones between 1.5-3 years… should work for sure. Might work for elder ones also but can’t comment since I haven’t tried myself.

Good luck with the nap times, hope you all get to enjoy a hot cuppa like I am doing right now!

xoxo

– A

Parenting

Why this blog?

I am a stay at home mother of a smart and very active 2-year-old who has been keeping me on my toes ever since she’s born. While my toes are busy running after her, my mind is occupied all the time thinking of ways to keep my little bundle entertained in an educational way. Since my pregnancy I was collecting articles and digging up information on how to make my baby smarter, how to develop her various skills, how to help her grow into a nice person…. as a result now I have a 1000 books worth of data on my hard drive and the mere thought of looking through it to find something makes me cringe!

My best buddy lives across the globe and coincidentally she also has a son who is only 4 weeks elder to my daughter. Motherhood has brought us closer than ever before and has given us endless new things to talk about. She is a working mother and is as concerned about the rights and wrongs of raising a toddler as I am.

We often share little tips and tricks and encourage each other when one of us is feeling low. She digs up information from her treasure trove on something that’s bothering me and I try to reciprocate in my own ways. She is the one who suggested we start a blog on the highs and lows of raising a toddler… the life and times of a stay at home and a working mother… the various challenges of every stage… the funny ways of how each child is unique yet how they still do similar things and ask similar questions. Also, I now realize that a sensible piece of advice or a little trick handed out at the right time by a fellow mom seems more credible than thousands of articles available online. 

So, here’s a blog where we’ll both share how and what we do to keep out little ones occupied along with things that help us stay sane on this crazy ride of motherhood little by little!

Hope everyone aboard has a helluva time!

xoxo

– A