One of my fondest memories as a child is to see my mother get dressed for Karvachauth. She rarely wears a sari and Karvachauth was one day when even if she didn’t want to I begged and pleaded for her to wear one. I remember going to a neighbor’s house to see other aunties all decked up and then watching the pooja. Even as a child I loved the karwa song. In the evening my grandmother used to share the goodies and money my mom gave her as gift with me. The festival was celebrated simply and there wasn’t much hoopla around fasting and gift giving as it is these days.
As I grew older I looked forward to fasting myself when I got married. So when post marriage I was told that my in laws side doesn’t celebrate Karvachauth I was a tad disappointed but decided to still keep it because not fasting on Karvachauth somehow felt wrong.
My celebrating this day and fasting is not a compulsion, not a tradition I am expected to follow and certainly not an image I have to live by. I fast as a way to thank God for giving me a husband who loves and respects me, who may have his flaws but has a heart of gold. As much as I fight with him, I do know he’s the best thing that happened to me and in the very cheesy Karvachauth style I want him as my husband for all 7 births or more.
Since I fast mainly for myself I maintain the flexibility and trade early morning sargi for a couple extra hours of sleep. I wear a sari or a suit as I find convenient. I cook an elaborate meal or go out for dinner depending on my mood. I have kept very lenient fasts during both my pregnancies and I sure will do it again if I feel myself physically incapable of staying thirsty or hungry all day. If we don’t have any sweets at home I break the fast with chocolates. Since I define the way I celebrate this festival I enjoy it more.
I do get mehandi, dress up, do pooja and wait for the moon. It feels nice to celebrate my husband and our marriage in a traditional way. Though we don’t do the channi thing, it still makes me warm and fuzzy to do the aarti and break the fast after moonrise.
I don’t expect a gift, my husband is oblivious to this newer custom and I never saw this during my childhood so it has never been part of the celebration for me. If he gets something it makes me happy, if he doesn’t I’m still happy because it’s Karvachauth 🙂
Wish you all a very Happy Karvachauth. May everyone finds happiness and peace in their married lives and may all husbands and wives have a happy and healthy life.
Dress up, glam up and sing a happy song. Don’t follow the rituals if you don’t feel they belong.
Haha… Sorry for the silly rhyme.
“Veero Kudiye Karwada,
Sarv Suhagan Karwada,
Ae Katti Na Ateri Na,
Kumbh Chrakhra Feri Na,
Aar Pair Payi Na,
Sui Ch Dhaga Payi Na,
Ruthda Manayi Na,
Suthda Jagayi Na,
Behen Pyari Veera,
Chan Chade Te Pani Peena,
Ve Veero Kudiye Karwada,
Ve Sarv Suhagan Karwada …….”