Crafty baby, Disciplining your child, DIY, Parenting

DIY Calming Bottle/Glitter Jar

As darling daughter is getting older she’s growing more sensitive to the idea of time out. If I ask her to go in a corner she sulks and pouts and outrightly refuses to do that. But there are times when I do need her to calm down for both her and my sake. In order to make time out fun for her I considered making a calming bottle. Of course there was added advantage of doing a craft together which is darling daughter’s most favorite thing to do!

Things we used :

  • Empty glass bottle (I used glass bottle that came with Starbucks frapuccino)
  • Glitter glue 
  • Extra glitter 
  • Confetti and assorted beads/tid bits
  • Hot glue gun (to seal the cap close)

How we made it :

  • We squeezed out one part glitter glue in a bowl and added 2 parts hot water. 
  • Whisk it together until there are no glue lumps in the mixture. 
  • Pour it in the clean bottle and add confetti, beads and more glitter as per your liking. 
  • Let the mixture cool down. Once cooled, close the lid and seal it with hot glue gun. 

Now give it a good shake and enjoy the glitter floating in the liquid. Your glitter jar is ready!


Notes:

  • It would be advisable to use a plastic bottle when making it for young kids.
  • If the mixture is not completely cooled before you close the lid, the plastic bottle may shrivel and ruin your efforts when it does cool down. 
  • Adding too much glitter glue would make the mixture too thick and glitter won’t settle down.
  • Closing with hot glue gun is important so the child doesn’t spill the contents while playing. 
  • This glitter jar is not perfect because the glitter does take a little long to settle down. I’ll experiment with other mediums and keep sharing my experience. 

Darling daughter enjoyed making the jar, she carefully chose stars and snowflakes from the confetti mix I got from Walmart. We used her favorite Frozen themed acolors and she was thrilled with the results. It’s another thing that we haven’t needed to give her a time out since we have made the calming bottle so I can’t really comment on its effectiveness… 😃

Do try this fun and easy project with your little one and share your experience with us!

Happy crafting!

-A

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Disciplining your child, Parenting

Making Toddlers Listen

As a mother, I always worry about teaching my kid to do the right thing. But to do that, the little one needs to follow too. So how to make the little apple listen and follow. The first thing that comes to mind is, set an example. Yes, that is first and foremost. But toddlers are just not yet wired to follow in the age group of 2-3, especially if they are in a bad mood. So how do we make them listen, understand and follow?

It’s a multi-step process.

  • First, make sure that the kid is not throwing a tantrum. If he or she is, distract them with something
  • If distraction technique doesn’t work, let them take their time to finish up their act. Do not react. Use a poker face and ignore
  • Once the tantrum is over, or the tantrum is not in picture, bend down at their level and gently ask them, while looking in their eyes, to do what you would like them to. Mostly this should work
  • If the above doesn’t work, very gently tell them, while staying in the same position “ I will count to five and then you have to do it. If you don’t, then mommy will have to show you how to do it” or simply start doing yourself and ask the kiddo for help
  • Still no movement, well them, show them how to do it. Hold their hand gently and make them do what they are supposed to do. As an example, cleaning the room and putting toys in their place. None of the above worked? Hold their hand gently and make them pick toys and put in their own place. After one or two toys have been picked, they will themselves start doing it
  • In the end, show them their hard work, give a big hug, and load with kisses

The above strategy works everytime, without shooting up my blood pressure. Teaches a calm behavior to the child and in the end, it’s fun to laugh rather than be mad.

Give it a shot!!!

(PS: The strategy has been adapted from Jo Frost’s Toddler Rules: Your 5-Step Guide to Shaping Proper Behavior)

Cheers!

-N

Disciplining your child

10 Things to Do to Stop Yelling at Your Kids

Some time ago I was chatting with a friend on how difficult it is getting to handle my daughter and her tantrums, and my friend said she swears by an article which has helped her immensely with her 2.5 year old. She emailed me the article right away and I have been following it ever since with excellent results, most of the times.

Here is the full article. It is from ‘Dr. Laura Blog’ and has been taken from here.

“Constantly screaming and yelling at your kids is abusive, useless and stupid (if it was useful, you wouldn’t have to do it more than once). Most parents scream because they are frustrated; their buttons have been pushed and they feel like they don’t have any other options. However, the minute you lose it, you lose all the power.

You would think that screaming would make your kids fear you. It doesn’t. As a matter of fact, it does just the opposite. Kids lose respect for you when you start screaming and yelling because you’ve lost control. They know that the yelling will pass, or they become so frustrated and angry that after a while, they become immune to it and don’t take you seriously.

Now, just as all kids misbehave, disobey, talk back, ignore chores and fight with siblings, all parents are going to holler every now and then. However, you need to pay close attention to how you’re yelling. Blaming and shaming – “You’re a loser,” “You’re useless,” “You’re the reason I’m upset” – are very destructive, especially if the child is being told that he or she is responsible for the parent’s problem. According to The American Journal of Psychiatry, emotional abuse is the most significant predictor of mental health, even more than sexual or physical abuse.

Here are 10 things you can do to stop yelling at your kids:

  1. Set clear boundaries. Kids are not psychic – you have to make the rules clear. If the rules aren’t clear, kids have trouble following them. You may assume that your child heard and remembers something you said to them in passing, but they may not. So, you need to be really clear. Instead of saying, “Don’t come in the house with wet shoes,” say, “When you come in the house, I want you to take your shoes off and leave them by the front door – whether they are wet or not. That way, we won’t bring the trash and germs from outside into the house.” Now that’s clear. Or, if you want your child to pick up their room, physically go in there and show them what you mean (when I was a kid, throwing everything into my closet and closing the door was my idea of cleaning my room).
  2. Set simple consequences. Many parents threaten consequences and then don’t follow through on them. However, empty threats don’t work.
  3. Speak to your child on his or her level. Bend down so that you’re eye-to-eye. Getting face-to-face makes it easier for them to hear you, listen to you and pay attention.
  4. Be sure your child understands what you are asking. After you’ve instructed your child to do something, have them repeat it back to you. That way, you’ll know if they’ve actually heard it.
  5. Respond every time a rule is broken. Be consistent. Each and every time a rule is broken, calmly impose the consequence.
  6. Remind your child of the rule only ONE time. Your child gets one reminder. After that, they get a consequence.
  7. Immediately deliver the consequence.
  8. Ask someone to remind you when you’re yelling. Pick someone who knows you well (a spouse, parent, friend, etc.) and ask them to give you a signal when they see you yelling.
  9. Respond kindly when your child yells at you. Instead of shouting back when your child is screaming at you, just calmly say, “I know you’re mad at me right now, but please talk to me like I’m someone you love.” That stops everyone in their tracks.
  10. Take a “parent” time-out. Sometimes even parents need a time-out. It doesn’t mean you have to go sit in the corner, it just means that you need to take a break. Take a shower. Have a cup of tea or a glass of wine. Revisit the situation later when you’re not feeling so angry. In fact, walking out of the room inspires fear far more than yelling does.”

 Happy Parenting

xoxo

-A