Starting school is a big milestone for a child as well as the parents. It’s the beginning of your child having a life independent of home and family. Most parents look forward to this big step and almost all parents are anxious to know what their little ones do at school. Parents religiously ask the child what he learnt at school only to receive vague replies, if anything at all.
What I have learnt over the last couple of years since darling daughter started school is that children get bored answering the same “What did you do at school today?” everyday. If we want detailed answers from them we need to get creative with our questions.
Here are some tips and questions to get your child talking about school and more:
- Make it a point to know the names of other kids, all teachers and nannies in your child’s class/school van. With random names ask questions like Did your friend XYZ come to school today? What color was Miss ABC wearing today?
- Did you have fun at school today? When the child answers usually it’ll be accompanied by what made the day fun and vice versa. If not, you can ask what made the day fun.
- Did you play any new games at school?
- Kids are usually very excited about birthdays. You can ask if any of their friends are having birthdays in the next few days.
- Who did you sit with today? Did you enjoy sitting with this friend?
- Did you learn anything new from a friend today?
- Did you learn anything new at school today?
- Did you learn a new word today?
- Did anyone get a timeout at school today? Why did they get timeout?
- What was the best part of your day at school today?
- Did anything make you sad at school today?
- Did you help someone at school today?
- Did someone at school helped you today?
- What did you play most with today?
- What was the best thing your teacher did today?
These work well if asked at bedtime as well since many kids are usually chatty just before they sleep. Don’t go about asking all the above questions in one day, pick a few randomly and play it by the ear.
Do leave us a note on the tactics you use to get your kids talking.